What Every Mentor Should Know

 

BY Poornima Vijayashanker | September 30, 2013

As a mentor you want your time and your experience to make a difference. But mentorships, while rewarding, are not without their frustrations. Luckily, just adjusting your approach can remove a lot of unnecessary hurdles and frustrations.

Pick your niche. Your mentorship will be stronger if you first think about who you can best serve. For example, I don't have the expertise to help entrepreneurs who are interested in areas such as creating physical consumer goods. I decided to merge my specific expertise, building technology products and companies, with a focus on an underserved group: women in technology. Finding the right group of mentees helps me mentor more effectively.

Make time. Mentorships are relationships. They're not transactions or crammed sessions on an already booked schedule. Think carefully about how much time you can contribute and pick a time interval and frequency you can adhere to consistently. When you meet, be present without distractions. To progress, you'll need to meet consistently so you can gauge what your mentees' needs are and help them accordingly. Most of your initial meetings are just "getting to know you" sessions, and it's only after meeting a few times that you really understand someone, their goals and how you can help them.

Don't give advice. Too many first-time mentors offer advice instead of guidance. They offer a solution based on what worked for them, given their experience and the context they were working in, instead of a process that mentees can learn from and apply to their own needs and situation. Your mentees might have a different background or challenge and it's important to take the time to understand their interests, goals, and what's worked and failed for them. For example, I recently had a mentee who was keen on setting up her own software development consulting business. Had I just looked on the surface I would have given her advice and tips on how to set up a consultancy. However, after getting to know her for about a month, I realized her shyness might affect her ability to deal with clients directly. We took a step back and worked on her presentations skills, so she could gain the confidence she needed to attract clients.

Know when you cannot help. There are times it will seem like you and your mentee are spinning your wheels. The truth is, your mentee might need help that is beyond your abilities. If your mentee is dealing with personal issues, for instance, your mentee might be better served by a professional therapist or lifecoach. If you don't have the experience or training that your mentee needs in the moment, explain that you'll need to put the mentorship on hold. Keep in touch and connect later when your mentee is ready.

Just say no. If someone reaches out to you, and you're simply swamped, let that potential mentee know. Maybe you're overstretched at work or overbooked with other mentees. If that's the case, once you do have an opening let them know. If you've had an ongoing mentorship relationship and your schedule changes, let them know that as well – they'll appreciate your honesty. Since you've built a relationship with this individual they'll understand and you'll be able to pick up your sessions when it makes sense for you both.

Poornima Vijayashanker 

Poornima Vijayashanker is the founder of Femgineer, an education services company dedicated to helping tech professionals and entrepreneurs better themselves in product development, communication, and leadership.

The author is an Entrepreneur contributor. The opinions expressed are those of the writer.

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Why Young Professionals Need Mentors for Success

THINKING BIG!—> Remember there is an opportunity in every obstacle.

Ilya Pozin

Founder, Ciplex

 

Half of recent college graduates are working as waiters or waitresses, bartenders, or baristas. Sure, some of these unemployed or underemployed grads should’ve examined industry outlooks several years ago, pursued degrees in nursing, accounting, or computer science, and reserved their passion for anthropology, art history, or the humanities as a hobby.

However, half of recent grads were successful in starting their careers. How were these recent graduates able to find good work? Extracurricular activities during school? Maybe. A few completed internships? Probably. A professional mentor? Definitely.

Recent graduates keeping their heads above water in a discouraging job market certainly owe their success to determination and hard work, but also to mentors they’ve encountered along their journeys. I know because I owe much of my success today to my mentors.

Here’s how professional mentors can help young professionals combat unemployment:

By Offering Overwhelming Support And Motivation

When I was still in college, a man by the name of Tom Antion took me under his wing and brought me on full-time at his company. In less than a year of working with Antion I was equipped with the knowledge and support to start my own venture. Professional mentors have the same impact on young professionals as to what Boy Scout leaders and little league coaches have on a child. They offer overwhelming support and motivation to help mold young professionals into who they will become, and in a tough job market, they’re prepared to keep them positive and motivated through job searches, interviews, rejections, and successes.

By Helping Decide How Quickly To Grow

As mentioned, I was only with Antion for a year, yet he gave his blessing and encouragement when I opted to move to LA to start Ciplex. Mentors have usually encountered the same experiences young professional will soon face. They have first-hand stories on how they overcame obstacles, or how they failed. Because of these experiences, they can help new professionals determine what steps to take in their career, and can offer support when it is time to make a big step in a new direction.

By Unselfishly Sharing Personal Stories

As hard as it is sometimes, we can’t be all work and no play. Mentors can alleviate some stress of figuring out how to balance a budget, a full-time job, paying off debt, buying a house, starting a family, all while being a successful professional. By sharing their own personal stories, professional mentors build personal relationships with their mentee. That relationship is worth it’s weight in gold.

By Teaching What They’ve Learned

With Gen Y being branded as unmotivated, disrespectful workers, these young professionals need to constantly aim to break the mold. I’ve worked or networked with many of these young professionals who are the hard working, ambitious kind — just like I was when I started my company at 17. Mentors see beyond the everyday lazy young person, recognize the hard workers, and share the lessons they’ve learned to better prepare young professionals in their careers.

There are many great solutions and movements focused on helping to end unemployment for today’s young people. #StartupLab, launching Labor Day weekend, is a great example offering a free virtual mentorship program for our top young statups. The message is clear: mentors are essential for combating unemployment and underemployment among today’s young workers and can make those hard earned college degrees seem like they were worth it again.

Do you think mentors are vital to combat unemployment among recent graduates? Why or why not?

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Recharging Your Relationship

by Chris Widener

Now you may ask why we would write an article about developing better relationships. The reason is because I believe that those who are in a relationship will be significantly and directly affected in all areas of their life by how that relationship is going, and how healthy that relationship is.

Research has proven that those who are happy at home are more productive and less stressful at work. Developing a better relationship with your mate can help you develop a better life and a better business! Here are some thoughts to chew on for developing a strong and healthy relationship with your mate.

Listen. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship and listening is the key to communicating. Too often when we are quiet we are not listening, but waiting to speak. Instead of listening to what our mate is saying, and intently trying to understand them, very often we are making mental notes of what we would like to say in response. This is particularly true for us males. We often are trying to find the weakness in our mate's argument, rather than really listening to the words that they're saying and the manner in which they're saying it. Why not take some time this week trying to internalize and understand your mate's words and feelings?

Schedule a regular time to go out or spend time together. With today's busy lifestyles, it is too easy to put our relationships on the backburner and take them for granted. While we might have every intention of spending regular time with our mate, we often find ourselves driven by a schedule that has us running in every direction and leaving us little time for our most important relationships. Work gets in the way. The kids get in the way. Our hobbies get in the way. We need to realize the value in the importance of that relationship with our mate and its effect on our total life. Then we need to make spending time with our mate a major priority by scheduling a specific time at least each week to get alone together, talk, and simply renew our relationship. Be sure to set some time aside each week to rediscover each other and enjoy your time together. Pencil it into your schedule and don't give up that spot. In fact, it is probably best if you and your mate sit down and decide what night will work each and every week, then put it into your daytimer. If someone asks you if you're available at that time, you tell them you already have an appointment. In the long run, that time that you spend with your mate will help you to become more of a success than you could ever mention.

Consider your mate's interests more important than your own. When each person has decided to give of themselves to the other, you form a reciprocating relationship of love, concern, and devotion. When you come to a place where you disagree or where the two of you have differing opinions, try to get to the point where you can consider what your mate likes as more important than what you would like to do. The simple decision to do this goes a long way toward developing a healthy relationship!

   
         
Learn your mate's love language. There is a lot of talk recently of love languages. What this is, is that each individual has certain ways they receive love from other people. Some people like to have time spent with them. Others like gifts, small or large. Still others respond best to personal touch. And others appreciate verbal affirmation. Our tendency is to show love the way that we like to receive love, but what will recharge our relationship fastest is to find out what way our mate likes to receive affirmations of our love. The next time you get a chance to speak to your mate, ask which of the above ways they like best to receive your demonstration of love. Then make a conscious effort to begin showing your love in that manner.

Do the small things you did when you first fell in love with your mate. Do remember when you were first in love? Remember the small things you did to show your love? But as time went along, you probably began to get weighed down with simply living life and forgot the small things that made the difference in the beginning. Things like a phone call in the middle of the day just to talk or say "I love you," an appreciative note, flowers, gifts, and opening doors. Recharge your relationship by consciously going back and doing the small things that you did when your love first began to grow.

Forgive. I've done a lot of work with couples having troubles, and one of the most common elements I find that is working against the development of their relationship is that they are holding something against the other and they aren't willing to forgive. The fact is that your mate is going to fail you from time to time. We need to understand that. What we do when we get to that point however, is what will make all the difference in the world. In a relationship that is going to last, the people involved are committed to forgiving one another. Those whose relationships last longest, and will be the healthiest, are those who are committed to forgiveness.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you in recharging your love relationship. I truly believe that if we will put these principles into practice we will see our relationships grow in ways they never have before, and that in turn will make our whole life better.

Chris Widener

Six Behaviors That Increase Self-Esteem

by Denis Waitley

Following are six behaviors that increase self-esteem, enhance your self-confidence, and spur your motivation. You may recognize some of them as things you naturally do in your interactions with other people. But if you don’t, I suggest you motivate yourself to take some of these important steps immediately.

First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born of self-respect. In the same way, answer the phone pleasantly whether at work or at home, and when placing a call, give your name before asking to speak to the party you want to reach. Leading with your name underscores that a person with self-respect is making the call.
Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or compliment. Don’t downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honor from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.

 

Third, don’t brag. It’s almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments. People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others—and that’s because they don’t perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.

Fourth, don’t make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you’re trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone—and this includes self-criticism—find a way to be helpful instead of critical.

Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don’t sit around and fall victim to “paralysis by analysis.” The late Malcolm Forbes said, “Vehicles in motion use their generators to charge their own batteries. Unless you happen to be a golf cart, you can’t recharge your battery when you’re parked in the garage!”

Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career. Own up to your shortcomings, but refuse to see yourself as a failure. A failure may be something you have done—and it may even be something you’ll have to do again on the way to success—but a failure is definitely not something you are.

 

Even if you’re at a point where you’re feeling very negatively about yourself, be aware that you’re now ideally positioned to make rapid and dramatic improvement. A negative self-evaluation, if it’s honest and insightful, takes much more courage and character than the self-delusions that underlie arrogance and conceit. I’ve seen the truth of this proven many times in my work with athletes. After an extremely poor performance, a team or an individual athlete often does much better the next time out, especially when the poor performance was so bad that there was simply no way to shirk responsibility for it. Disappointment, defeat, and even apparent failure are in no way permanent conditions unless we choose to make them so. On the contrary, these undeniably painful experiences can be the solid foundation on which to build future success.

The Passing of a Legend

With great sadness we share that Jim Rohn, legendary success philosopher, author and mentor to millions, passed away Saturday, December 5, 2009.

As many Your Achievement Newsletter readers are aware, Jim Rohn touched millions of lives over the past 46 years through his seminars, books, articles and CDs. He was known to stay long after an event, shaking hands, taking pictures and signing autographs. He loved making a difference in people’s lives—that was his passion and inspiration. Yet he was also a private man who kept a small, loyal and caring inner circle. He was a tremendous friend to those who knew him.

Harold Dyke, long-time close friend of Jim’s for over 55 years, said it best, “As Jim is ending one life, he is simultaneously being birthed into a new life, one that he has talked about over the years and anticipated with great joy in his last days.”

Kyle Wilson, long-time colleague and friend of Jim, had this to say about his mentor: “Jim Rohn

was a great human being. Jim had the rare ability to take any concept or idea and then frame it in such a way that the rest of us could see it more clearly. His wisdom and insights positively affected everyone he touched on some level and to so many of us it was in an extraordinary way. But even more impressive was Jim Rohn the man. He possessed style and charisma, yet was humble, kind and understated to all who knew him. I find myself every day reflecting, benefiting from and passing on the wisdom and ideas that are rooted in Jim’s message and wisdom. Jim is irreplaceable on every level. I will miss him beyond words, but am comforted as I know he was, that his message and legacy will live on and positively change millions of lives over the years to come!”

Someone once said, “When you are born, you enter the world crying while everyone else is rejoicing, and when you die, hopefully, you have lived such a life that everyone will be crying while you are rejoicing.” Jim Rohn lived such a life.

Darren Hardy, dedicated student and Jim Rohn protégé for more than 15 years, said of Jim, “He was the most influential man in my life, second only to my father. Jim cemented my philosophical foundation and nourished my mind with ideas and ambitions never before imagined. He chiseled my character seminar by seminar, tape by tape, book by book, then CD by CD, hour by hour. Jim emboldened my belief, in me and in my most daring dreams. When I fell and was bloodied, he was there with encouraging words to help me get back up. When I didn’t think I could go on, Jim convinced me I was stronger than I imagined. When I wanted a shortcut, he reminded me there aren’t any. Even when I got too caught up in trying to achieve and succeed, Jim compelled me to leave room to live, to laugh and to love.”

Stuart Johnson, business associate and long-time admirer, said, “I was first introduced to the philosophies and teachings of Jim Rohn almost 25 years ago. And he made an immediate impression on me. I was amazed by how this modest and unassuming man could communicate such an extraordinarily powerful message in simple and straightforward terms. In person, one-on-one, he was as humble and down-to-earth as he was in front of an audience of thousands. I will treasure my personal memories of Jim and know that I will forever benefit from the wisdom of this remarkable man.”

There will be a private funeral held in the coming days. Plans and details are also being arranged for a Public Memorial Service to be held in the Los Angeles area in the near future. Details will be announced upon final confirmation at the

Jim Rohn Tribute Site, where you will also find a special tribute to Jim. You are also encouraged to post your thoughts and remembrances of Jim on the Memorial Wall.

Jim fondly closed his programs with the following sentiments: “I go with you in all the experience that we’ve had. But I promise you this as we leave here: I will not leave you behind. I’ll take you with me in my thoughts and in my heart.”

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Run Your Business Like a Business For Greater Success

By Miata Edoga

As a small business owner, your goal is to be successful. The first step toward

that success is to make sure you always treat your business like it's a business. Here's how you should do that when it comes to finances.

The first step is to consider how a big company runs and to try to emulate as much of those practices as possible. All big businesses have business bank accounts and corporate credit cards that allow them to easily track their sales and expenses and, in turn, their profits.

Think for a moment. Are you following this practice? If you don't have a separate bank account and credit card for your business, you're making the mistake of treating your business as a hobby. Unless you happen to be an accountant, it may be a little overwhelming to think in these terms at first. But taking a few easy steps can make this process fall into place. To be sure, this step is absolutely imperative to your success as a small business owner.

Let's start with thinking about how a CEO handles business-related expenses. He or she doesn't charge corporate printing supplies, for example, to his or her personal account-and neither should you! (This is one of the easiest traps for network marketers and home-based entrepreneurs to fall into.) Using a separate bank account for your business makes it impossible for your personal and business expenses to get confused. It also makes record-keeping easier.

Once you set up the business account, make sure that all personal earnings (wages from a "day job" if you have one, alimony, financial gifts, etc.) are always placed in your personal account. Nothing but business earnings should be deposited into your business bank account. You should also be sure to keep personal expenses (rent, clothes, groceries, vacations etc.) and business expenses (salaries, equipment, supplies, etc.) separate, strictly paying for personal expenses out of personal accounts and business expenses out of business bank accounts.

Setting up a new bank account isn't particularly hard but it may take some time to shift your way of thinking. If you're just getting started, you may be worrying that you're not yet at the point where you are profitable enough to pay for all your business expenses. If this is the case, make your business a loan from your personal account. Keep a record of these loans and then allow your business to reimburse you when it becomes profitable.

Just having a business bank account is a great start, but it's not enough. It is also necessary to have a separate credit card for your company. The same protocol goes for the business card: personal purchases should be charged to your personal credit card and business expenses on your business card. Remember that the interest is tax deductible if you carry a balance on your business credit card. Having even one personal expense on the business card disallows this benefit.

Sometimes there are expenses that fall into both categories-a portion is personal and the rest is business. This is particularly true if you work from home or if you use your automobile for business travel. Paying for these items from your personal account is the best way to handle these expenses. Always remember to keep very clear records, though. Keep a log handy in your car to track your business mileage. File your household bills (mortgage/rent, utilities, phone, etc.) together so you can easily access them at tax time. At that point, you can determine what percentage you are allowed to write off as a business expense.

Here are three reasons why these practices will help you be a success:

1. If you want to earn income from your business, you must treat it as a business at all times in both practice and attitude.

2. If you don't keep clear and separate records, the IRS may classify your business as a hobby if you're audited. As a result, you could lose tax deductions and possibly even be penalized.

3. By following these practices, you can easily track your progress, discover any changes you need to make and determine when you've become profitable.

Remember, in addition to treating your business like a business, entrepreneurial success rests on believing in yourself. Be confident in your ability to be a success. By following these tricks of the trade, you are acting like a professional and believing in your own success.

Miata Edoga is the President & Founder of Abundance Bound, Inc., creating success for small business owners, network marketers and solo entrepreneurs. Their mission is to provide the financial knowledge and skills entrepreneurs need to build lasting, stable and profitable businesses. They employ innovative and inspiring methods to share this information, while making sure the learning is practical and action based - creating measurable results. Get your FREE audio download, The Power of Prosperity, with simple strategies guiding small business owners to a rock solid financial foundation at: http://www.AbundanceBoundSystem.com

Serious Entrepreneurs Know How to Stay Motivated

By Shauna Harper

As an entrepreneur do you ever find yourself having grand plans and intentions but then often falling short of them? It is natural to want more wealth, health and knowledge. However, we often lack the motivation to see our plans through. Despite the initial "boom" of enthusiasm, we tend to quickly lose our steam.

A typical true entrepreneur at heart is always looking for their next business. How many of us have signed up for the next MLM or business venture. Your energy is high and your dreams grand, but after working a little while in the business, you end up losing the motivation and the energy you had when you first started. Usually this is after you have also invested a lot of your time and money.

So why should we bother? Achieving what you set out to do, can give you a sense of fulfillment and purpose. You feel accomplished and complete. Learning how to motivate yourself, is a lifelong skill that will make reaching any target possible. So how do you stay motivated or "on task"?

Here are some tips:

1. Find your Dharma Your what? Another word for Life's Purpose is Dharma. What is your true calling in your life? What would you do if money was not an issue? Once you figure that out, then turn whatever you love into service for others. If making a lot of money is your life's purpose, then you need to be helping others do the same, in order to fulfill your life's passion.

2. Get a map! You need to get a roadmap of where you are going. A plan for the next month, 3 months, 6 months and even to a year. By having a plan, you now have direction and a map of how you are going to accomplish your goal.

3. Start to visualize your goal. By visualizing what you want to do, you end up putting your thoughts, feelings and energy into your goal. You can do it simply by closing your eyes and thinking about it, or you can create vision boards around your desired outcomes.

4. Ride the momentum and excitement wave. A quote about how to action our goals by Tony Robbins really sums this up: "Excitement must lead to immediate action or you will lose the power of momentum. More dreams die because we fail to seize the moment. Do it now! "

5. Celebrate small successes and milestones. Everyone always looks at the final destination as the reward. "When I make $1Million Dollars..." By celebrating small successes along the way, you are just reinforcing that you are on task. Examples of milestones could be: The first client you get, the first 4-figure month, the first 5 figure month, the first 6 figure month etc...

6.Keep your energy clean. Have you ever had a great idea that was waiting to blossom and then you shared it with someone and they shot it down? Refrain from getting too close to negative people with negative energy. And if you can't keep completely away, use their negativity or doubt as a way to catapult you to succeed.

7. Network with others. Now with the world wide web, you can find a forum or a group for everything. Networking with others that are either in the same business or similar business, can really keep your motivation level up. Other entrepreneurs have gone through what you have gone through. Note: Remember rule number 6.

8. Use the power of words. Surround yourself with powerful quotes, words and affirmations. You can have a quote or affirmation scroll as your screen saver, hang them up around your house (post it notes are good for that), write them on little cards and carry them in your wallet, or use magnets with quotes. Every time you think you feel your motivation dropping, whip out a card and just say it over and over again.

9. Use personal development products. There is a reason why this is such a booming industry. Using tapes, cds, dvds over and over again can help to put you in the mindset you need to stay motivated. Also, once a year, incorporate your vacation with a personal development workshop so that you come back refreshed and ready to live your life's passion.

10. Exercise, exercise, exercise. If the above 9 steps just don't work to keep you motivated. Put on your workout shoes and just get out and exercise. Once you get your blood pumping, oxygen into your brain, you will be sure to be back on task.

Shauna Harper is a serial entrepreneur with a passion for motivating and helping others to build businesses. If you are looking to build a six figure income that inspires others to suck the juice out of life, then check out her website: http://www.shaunaharper.com.

Solo Entrepreneur - Want to Boost Business, Start With YOU!

By Candice Bowles

When I'm teaching business building strategies one of my key points is that you can't grow your business if you aren't prepared to grow yourself! Having your own business will help you discover amazing things about yourself! You will even do things you never thought you could!

It can get a little rough

On the flip side, having your own business may mean that you have to face personal baggage you would otherwise have carried around for years! This could be an incredible opportunity for personal growth and freedom. But if we are brutally honest, most of us would not request a dose of 'character building' experiences if we didn't have to, would we?

Somewhere we find the courage

But, when growing is connected to our big dreams, we are much more motivated to get out of our comfort zones and grow where we need to! Somewhere along the line we realize that although it may not be easy, it will be worth it!

The downside of being passionate about making a big difference

The advancement of your business is very closely tied to who and what you are because it relies so heavily on your dreams, skills and confidence. The bigger your business, the bigger the responsibilities. For many, that's enough to shy away.

For those with a vision and a passion to make a big difference, the status quo loses its luster. Comfort becomes an unsatisfactory option!

When you say "yes" to growth

So, how do you help yourself grow and take your business with you? First stop: find a mentor (or two). Mentors are the people in our lives who can offer us sage advice on life's challenges. Your mentors (business and personal) can help you take your life to new levels.

Amazing ways a mentor can help you grow

Mentors can help you find clarity where you have blind spots and help you figure out what your next step needs to be. You can benefit from their experiences so that you don't have to learn it all the hard way! They can help keep you accountable and remind you of the big picture when you are getting lost in the details.

Finding a mentor

When you're looking for a mentor, look for people who have experience, expertise and personal values and life skills that you trust and would like to emulate. Mentors can be as informal as your wise old grandmother or as formal as hiring a life coach or business mentor.

If they're not available or affordable

Not everyone we trust and would like to learn from is available or affordable to us. If that's the case turn to their books, or find out if they are speaking at any conferences. You may also be able to follow them online, courtesy of social network sites. Start listening to what they're saying and see how you can learn from them.

If it's not their profession

If you have someone in mind for whom mentoring is not a profession, ask them if they would be willing to meet with you, perhaps once a month or once every 3 months. (Meetings over the phone can work very well too. Don't be put off by geographic distance.)

Be intentional and turn the tide

The fact is, our Western culture focuses so much on independence that we've lost the culture of mentoring. Mentoring is intrinsic in cultures more focused on extended families and community. We need to be intentional about re-introducing this aspect to our lives and the lives of those around us.

One more thing!

As you find yourself a mentor or two, remember that you also have experience and value that others could benefit from and by mentoring others, we also continue to grow ourselves. Is there someone in your life you can make yourself available to, as a mentor?

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